So today my baby sister turns 16. I can’t get over how much she’s grown up, particularly in the last few years. She’s turning into a “person” and is looking at colleges and all that stuff. It’s fascinating and scary for me to watch as her big sister.
D, I remember what life was like for me at 16 and I know what life is like for me now 10 years later, so let me give you a bit of birthday guidance:
- The big dramas that seem really life changing and horrible now won’t even be remembered in 10 years.
- Get out of Kentucky. Seriously. There’s a whole wide world out there with loads of amazing places to visit, to live. Kentucky will always be there… you can always go back. But get out.
- Don’t worry about the future or about bad things happening. Whatever will be, will be… you can’t change that you can only experience it and move on from it.
- Take chances on people, on situations, on hunches. If you’re wrong, you learn from it. And if you’re right, it was worth it.
- Choose your friends wisely, always. The really good ones will have your back, no matter what.
- As you get older, your idea of fun will change. Friday nights in will be more attractive than a night out.
- Drink lots of water. It’s good for your skin, your body, your mood.
- Exercise. Even if it’s just a walk down the road.
- Don’t waste more than 50 pages on a bad book. Life is way too short and there are too many amazing books out there.
- Love will find you… you don’t need to actively search for it. It’ll be unexpected and beautiful, but it will find you. Love back, hard.
- “You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.” – Desiderata © Max Ehrmann 1927
Wow, that all sounded a bit like Baz Luhrmann’s Everybody’s Free to Wear Sunscreen speech. For those of you who are unfamiliar with this 90s gem of positivity:
Full lyrics are here.
Ah geeze. Now that I’m older, that makes me a bit teary eyed because my goodness it’s true.
Happy 16th birthday, D… I hope your year is as brilliant and as gorgeous as you are.